How do Men Differentiate between Girlfriend Material vs Hookup vs Wife material? | Are all men same?

It happens much too much these day and age of casual dating. You’ve been looking for a guy for a while and aren’t sure if your fling will grow into an actual relationship or if he wants to hook up with you whenever he wants. We’re here to help you out and answer all of your concerns, as well as show you how to tell if he’s looking for a hookup or a serious relationship.

It’s all too easy to overthink whether the guy (or lady) you’re seeing wants more or sees you as a booty call, especially in the current dating world of 2019, where another female may be only a Tinder swipe away.

If you desire something more serious, there’s no point in wasting your time, and all signals point in that direction. So we’re here to help you in determining whether he’s in it for the long haul or to hook up.

He never wants you to meet his family or friends.

It’s self-evident yet true. If a guy never suggests meeting his family or friends to you and you only see each other on a one-on-one basis, it might be a big sign that he sees you as a hookup. It suggests they don’t consider you as their girlfriend if they don’t attempt to involve you in things like business functions or family meals after a long time.

If he thought you were a prospective girlfriend, he’d introduce you to his friends or family, or at the very least, invite you to group hangouts or parties to see how you fit in. In 2019, this even became a dating fad.

Pocketing, which occurs when someone doesn’t introduce you to their gang because they’re concealing you away, has even become a dating fad in 2019.

He only texts you

Okay! if he’s texting you at night and sneaking into your DMs to ask if you want to come over and hang, he’s just looking for a hookup. Not only would a guy who wished to seek to hang out in broad daylight and go on exciting dates, but he would also ask to watch Netflix and chill at his apartment at night. Another red flag is if he doesn’t attempt to meet up in person but continues to text with you.

In the time of Tinder, this is a real issue for millennials. Let’s face it; we’ve all “dated” a man who we only see once in a rare moon but who spends most of their time texting one other on the terrible dating app.

A guy could keep you engaged by sending you SMS now and again. That doesn’t mean they don’t want to date you; it just means you’re on the back burner or one of the females in their rotation. He doesn’t want to make any plans that are in the future

If he can’t commit to something that’s only a few weeks away, it’s safe to assume he won’t be able to save you. Someone who does not see you will not make plans with you in the future. He’s only waiting for something better if he’s flaky and doesn’t provide firm replies or never initiates dates first.

On the other hand, if he invites you to activities like a hockey game, concerts, or a friend’s wedding or more away, you can know he views this as a long-term relationship!

Compliments only your looks and not your personality

If he lavishes you with praises on your physical eyes but never tells you why he likes you as a person, it’s a telltale indicator that you’re merely a booty call. Because that’s what they’re paying attention to, it’s easy for a guy who wants to hook up to mumble sweet nothings and focus on your beauty.

Another sign is if he makes your chats more sexual, such as sending you sexts or DMing you for late-night meet-ups rather than asking how your day went or greeting you good morning.

He tells about his emotions and what he’s going through– whether good or bad.

He trusts you and sees you as more than simply a hookup if he isn’t scared to show you his more emotional side. Given how difficult it is for many men to open up, they will rarely do so until they have a meaningful relationship.

If he’s willing to discuss what he’s going through with you, whether it’s good or bad, it means your connection is developing into something more than just sexual.

He doesn’t take care of your needs in bed.

If a guy is concerned with himself and how good it feels for him during sex, he is uninterested in you as a person. Someone who is boyfriend material will want both of you to have a great time, and he will be concerned about how you feel.

Another thing to keep an eye on is if he wants to snuggle in bed after performing the deed or if he falls asleep or even hops off the bed, leaving no time for pillow conversation. If they consider your relationship as a casual one, the guy is unlikely to want to spend time snuggling or hanging out afterwards.

Final Verdict

You may always ask him if you’re unclear whether he wants to keep things casual or go for anything more if you’re hesitant. On the other hand, if he’s relationship material, you won’t have to play the guessing game for very long.

If he’s not scared to talk about it and you’re both on the same page of whether you’re or exclusive not, you’ve found your answer. If his response is evasive and does not directly address your question, this reply is sufficient evidence that he is not interested in pursuing a more proper relationship with you.